My dear, it's all relational

People who are not used to kindness misunderstand kindness so much. They don't get it. They could be stingy and assume you were also stingy, or hypocritical.

K assume(d/s) that of P. He probably assumes that of me too. It's not exactly my problem then that he doesn't like me. I wouldn't like me as a hypocritical and stingy person too. But it's really mostly his own projection. The tricky thing to do is, to not let him get the better of me... to not let him bring out the worst in me. 
It's not easy but it's doable.

First, still be you: the kind you the compassionate you the righteous you. If and only if the 'first' is absolutely secured, you could be strategic about... trying to deliver the good you in a way that he'd get, comprehend, understand, register and acknowledge [ LOL the series of verbs ]. It's hard. And this 'second' ... may never be achievable. Focus on securing the 'first' josey.

You fineeeeee. And how thrilling and rewarding and meaningful that you have P as your comrade peer and ally. 

Again, who wants the road most travelled. We choose the worthy (and therefore the inevitably difficult) :P

You fine my dear.

Yes there will be an easier place. But you are also enjoying the slightly emotionally-bumpy, discomfort zone. Because even here, you meet friends, and challengers, and allies, and acceptances - everyone being human who is also masochists and full of contradictions, and troubles, and angst, and problems and solvers.

My dear, it's all relational.