human relation. ideally.

hard diction. soft content.
i needa write hard to formularise.

writing as an idealist:

friends
are to attract and to be attracted

one way to enable active attraction is to cater to what the opponent like
ofcourse one could say that the active doer could then be a hypocrite
for he or she sort of alter his or her true self to cater to the other being
and yet
cater to does not necessarily carry negative connotation
if one treasures a friend as such
that he or she cares about the positive being of the other person
is it really a wrong thing to change the self a bit
as long as he or she feels comfortable to?
this echoes to the idea of to be attracted
so you actively present an aspect of you (might be an immediate acquisition, still modest) that the other person would like
so this friend would be attracted.

of course everything is done rather unconsciously or subconsciously
curse me the conscious

the cool way to do
on the other hand
is be yourself
as cold as stern as cool as unapproachable
seemingly negative but again not necessarily
being distinct and special is appealing to some people
then this special qi would get some, a few or a lot, people
or by chance and randomness
a person gets to meet new people and make friends
however great an extent the relationship would develop into
as shallow still, its friendship of a kind

though i wonder
when two people know each other and value each other
there is the force of 'i would evolve for your good'
or is there not?

needless to say this is also unconscious
but there is this thing going on

like
when the well being of this friend becomes part of your joy
this is really nothing too noble or fancy
i believe it is in everybody

a night of inspiration
though it was induced by a not so positive case study

christ my friends are amazing